I think everyone knows about the Enneagram by now.
Almost every person under age 45 has at least heard of it.
The Enneagram is a personality test that is much deeper than you are probably prepared to read. I was turned on to it a couple of years ago and cannot seem to get enough. I have read Rohr and Cron and Huertz and even listen to Ian Cron’s weekly podcast Typology – humble brag. But, I am just scratching the surface of all the materials and knowledge out there. I believe the most important reason for this surge in popularity is how this sacred message raises one’s awareness and promotes personal and spiritual growth.
Now Personal Growth may be a more thoughtful term than “self-help”, but I really buy it. Nothing is more concerning to me than the thought that human beings are incapable of change or more importantly growth. I think any addict who has maintained sobriety for over 25 years would vehemently disagree with you – my dad is a perfect example.
I believe we need to grow. We are not stagnant beings. We were made for a distinct purpose.
The question is – do you …believe this? And if you do, what will you do to promote growth? This is where you “do your work”.
“Do your work” is a common term shared by Ian Cron on his outstanding Typology podcast (see above). From what I can tell, this is a clinical term for someone who has spent the necessary time to reflect, understand, and project how they experience the world. In other words, those who have “done their work” fully understand how we deal with all the shitty hands life has dealt us.
Do we live as victims of our past or do we persevere and live a different story because of our past?
I chose the latter.
The most recent book I read was about my number (2) specifically by Beth McCord. If you don’t know anything about the Enneagram – shocked you are still reading this – but there are 9 numbers and most every human being aligns closely with one of them. The 9 numbers each have their own name designation and description. You can find this all detailed in the books by the authors above or the other 10,000 books available online.
I wanted to write about some work I have been doing.
For once, not about design or architecture, but about soul searching, life giving work. The work I have been needing to do. Instead of the super deep dive (helpful to me, boring to read) here are some highlights/ questions that McCord asks. These have been very useful as I have begun my work:
- What is your core desire? – what you always strive for
- What is your core fear? – what you always avoid or prevent
- What is your core weakness? – what you wrestle with
- What is your core longing? – what you long to hear
McCord walks through these themes briefly in her short book, but the thing I realized through the simple writing exercises is how complex and deep and emotional I am. We all are this way – each unique works by God, on this Earth for a divine purpose. But, life is not prescribed or some sort of formula. That’s what makes it thrilling and worth living. We really have to grapple (each day) with our core desires and fears, weaknesses and longings. Understanding who we are at our worst and actually learning from it. Taking our lives as a series of rough drafts, making edits and becoming more profound prose. Never perfect of course, but a better version than before.
Here’s the revelation I had from McCord’s book:
My deepest desire is fueled by my biggest fear.
For me this means, I have an endless ambition to avoid a life of insignificance, to live a life and not be remembered. Conversely, I strive for identity, meaning, and acknowledgement to my detriment. This is the wrestling match you may resonate with, but the important thing is not to win the match, but understand who is in the ring.
Maybe these are deep topics for a blog post, but I am starting to think this is the kind of work we all need to do. To ask ourselves big and deep and wide questions of our soul and do our work necessary to live the lives we were created to live.
One lesson at a time.